And suddenly, magazines and newspapers are talking about the effect of broken marriages on children. Earlier, the debate was on divorce vs. long lasting marriages. The focus has now shifted to study the children and their performance and character based on whether they have been raised in single-parent or normal homes.
Recently, I read in Time.com on how children who are raised without a father or mother have worse off grades and/or higher college dropout and so on.
We have had enough studies to provide evidence for the entire generation for the next 20 years. The research people might as well stop their studies and focus on holding together their own lives instead of highlighting the pros and cons of family relations and trouble faced by children.
A child who is browsing the net for some information can easily come across articles like these. And what he/she finds there is not some magic words written there but a 'study' that should not be shown to children in the first place.
Society has enough hierarchy and hypocrisy to harm children of divorced or separated parents in unthinkable ways - they certainly don't need news telling them their poor performance can be due to them being raised by single parents.
There is demand probably among few parents for information like this. There is no other division of society who would need demotivating studies and results to make them mourn instead of feel good about their lives.
How about studies such as children raised in single parent households are more patient and understanding?
Discrimination is found everyday among children themselves, thanks to insensitive teachers and parents who sympathize or silently mock children who are raised without a father or mother. Why can't they be treated normally? Growing up with parents who are divorced or separated or no more can make a child a better human being.
But it's sad that our society consists of people who rarely stand up for children and motivate them to build their own character and personality, and be strong to face every situation that comes their way.
Help the children who cry for broken homes - not out of feeling 'bad' for their lives, but because they are independent and have a long way to grow and need nurturing like any other child. With such studies and mindset of people, a child feels weak, even if his mind and heart have immense power and maturity.
Focus on the positive instead of the negative, and the result will be there for everyone to feel and enjoy. Especially children.
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